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Author: loriajuarez Subject: Sexually deprived and depressed

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Registered: 09-18-2013

posted on 09-18-2013 at 01:58 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Sexually deprived and depressed

I have been with my gf for 7 years now. We're from the same town and met before college. We were fortunate enough to go to the same college, where we shared the same bed and living space for 4 years. It was the best 4 years of my life.

Fast forward to 4 years later. We graduated last summer and both found jobs immediately back at home. Since then, it's been the daily grind at a menial cubicle job for the two of us. To make matters worse, we're both back at home living with our parents. Before I get hounded or lectured at for not moving out, let me clarify by saying that the housing here is ridiculously expensive. We both figured that it would be more practical to live at home and save up money so we can have a place of our own in the near future. And I kid you not in that unless you're making 6 figures or you plan to have no savings, renting even a single bedroom apartment is out of the question.

Needless to say, the sex has been far and few. Since we both work 9-5 jobs, there is absolutely no time when we're home that our parents aren't in the house as well. I literally get no private time on my own here since my parents are always here, and I have relatives living in the house for months at a time as well. Sure, it's great from a familial point of view, getting to spend so much time with family and all, but who am I lying to. It's been over a year since we settled down into this situation, and as time goes on I'm finding myself unable to cope with this. I really cannot take this anymore. Imagine being able to be intimate with your love on a weekly or daily basis for the past 4 years, and all of a sudden have this taken away from you. Honest to god, I sometimes feel my heart sink and my throat tighten to the point where I'm almost choking up when I think about this current situation. It's a terrible feeling that I can't help but encounter almost every day now.

Sure, we do some weekend and overnight trips, maybe every few months. But definitely not every week or even every month. These are great and help out the situation, but as new grads, we can't afford to do this more frequently. It's been 3 months since our last trip, and we have a week long trip planned in September, but nothing before and nothing afterwards. Just thinking about these "blackout" periods makes me really frustrated and depressed.

Lastly, my gf is not the risky, outdoors, adventurous type, so anything like the car or outside in public is out of the question. Trust me, I've already tried plenty of times but she won't budge at all. She doesn't take any risks at all, which means phone/cyber sex or sexting is out of the question as well.

I just don't know how to go on like this anymore. It feels like I'm wasting my youth and livelihood with no end in sight. I love her dearly and though I try not to be, I think I'm coming off as cranky and frustrated to her whenever we bring up the situation. Has anyone else ever been in this situation? If so, did you have any solutions or any advice for me? I'm having a terribly hard time getting adjusted to the daily grind at work, and coupled with this it makes me feel like there is nothing to live for. It's the same routine every day with no variation whatsoever, and nothing to look forward to afterwards.
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Registered: 09-19-2013

posted on 09-19-2013 at 13:35 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Sexually deprived and depressed..

To an extent, yes I have and it sucked, tho my situation was only for about 5 months.
I find it hard to believe that with the both of you having full time jobs, you can't afford SOMETHING together. A tiny apartment can actually be quite fun if you get along well enough. Seriously not possible?
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